What to do with Criticism, and How I Experienced It Lately

behind the scenes, Grief, Happiness, personal story, Thoughts

Recently, I let some criticism get to me….and I decided to make a vulnerable video about it and what I learned from it.

If you have criticism in your life, or someone is saying things to you that are making you feel hurt, this video will help.

 

9 Comments

  1. kris Saba
    kris Saba on October 25, 2019 at 1:44 am

    Of course you should be happy even after your son died.
    Your son would want you to happy.

    God Bless You.

    • rltervo
      rltervo on October 25, 2019 at 11:52 am

      Yes, exactly. I know our children wouldn’t want us to be miserable the rest of our lives.

  2. Sharon Southard
    Sharon Southard on October 25, 2019 at 2:22 am

    God be with you! Everyone in our situation reacts in different ways. You can either use the situation to someday help others, or become bitter. With Gods help you have chosen to help others. Good for you! I too am still in somewhat of a stage where I feel I can’t truly be happy again, but I am slowly starting to come out of that feeling. That can take time. I have chosen to write poems about my feelings and experiences that I have felt in the last year, and have started a book that maybe someday I will finish. Don’t ever let people take away your feelings of self worth, I’m sure you are tremendously helping a lot of people who need you. You’re right, people take negative feelings out on other people when they are hurting sometimes. Unfortunately there will always be people to make nasty comments like that. Keep going, you have people rooting for you! Even though I don’t use your services, I still love the encouragement from your emails. Thank you!

    • rltervo
      rltervo on October 25, 2019 at 11:53 am

      Thank you for letting me know that you get encouragement from my emails:) And I hope you do publish that book for you. When I published my book it took my life on a whole new interesting trajectory:)

    • Julie
      Julie on October 25, 2019 at 1:20 pm

      Well said! I remember when my grief was new, I had a hard time being with people who were laughing & having fun. I would think to myself, “How dare they! They know I am grieving! Their actions should reflect my mood!” Through counseling , I was reminded I can only control myself-in my thoughts, feelings, actions, effort, reactions, attitude, words-timing-tone & beliefs. I am not in control of others nor my circumstances.

  3. Sooz Iee
    Sooz Iee on October 25, 2019 at 2:37 am

    I’m so sorry that happened! I can tell you are authentic and want to help! I’m glad you can see it’s not about you! Thanks for the heartfelt video! ❤️

    • rltervo
      rltervo on October 25, 2019 at 11:54 am

      You are welcome:) Sometimes I think the biggest learning experiences for me may be helpful for my audience too…

  4. Marlene Wagner
    Marlene Wagner on October 25, 2019 at 4:44 pm

    I’ve loved you from the day you and I connected in SPS. I’ve always supported and wished you nothing but peace in your heart and a great success in your business.
    You called it several times in your heartfelt video that cruel remarks have nothing to do with you and everything to do with the person being cruel. Hurt people, hurt people! Pray for them instead because they must have a lot of pain in their hearts.

    Got Bless, your a beautiful soul! You’re real, authentic and have a huge, kind heart!

    Stay great!
    A friend and fellow author!

    • rltervo
      rltervo on October 25, 2019 at 5:43 pm

      Thank you Marlene! Yes….there is much compassion needed in this world for those people. Hope you are doing well!