FREEDOM
This word is everywhere at this time of year. I started to think about what it really means to me as a Mom who lost a son to suicide.
First, I looked up the definition. According to Merriam-Webster:
A quality or state of being free: such as
1. the absence of necessity, coercion, or constraint in choice or action2. liberation from slavery or restraint or from the power of another: independence
3. the quality or state of being exempt or released usually from something onerous (I looked this up too: TROUBLESOME)
4. ease
I was thinking about all the things I now feel free from once I decided and made the choice to heal my grief and start living my life.
Here's a few things:
Freedom from how others think I should be grieving
Freedom from how I think I “should” be grieving
Freedom to decide what I want to do with my life
Freedom to leave my job and start my business
Freedom to tell my story, in MY way
Freedom to figure out what I believe about what suicide means
Freedom to believe whatever I want about what happened to my son after he died
Freedom to believe whatever I want about what will happen to me when I die
Freedom to choose what religion means in my life, and what I believe to be true about God and how I “should' live
Freedom from other's opinions about who I am and what I do
Freedom from nagging thoughts that tell me “You should be different, you didn't do it good enough, you aren't ever going to be able to really make the impact you want to”
Freedom from the critical thoughts about what I look like in the mirror
Freedom to decide who I allow to come into my life and how I show up as a friend/sister/daughter/mom
Freedom to choose to live the best life I ever lived
What do you want to make freedom mean for you? How can it help you move forward?
If you are feeling imprisoned by your grief, or your thoughts, or by what others are thinking, or by all the “shoulds”, I can help you with that. Just leave me a message to say you'd like to setup a call at this LINK: https://rebeccatervo.com/work-with-me/